The Present is the only point of Power
Stop for a moment and take a deep connected breath. No really stop for a moment and take a deep connected breath. Are you present in the here and now? Or are you off to the next thing racing from one thing to another until you slide into bed at night tired and exhausted from your day? Did you ever stop today and give thanks for being alive one more day?
I’ve been trying to connect with my son for weeks now. He is super busy and focused on creating music. When he is not at his day job, he is at home in his music studio. With him I realized I don’t speak up for myself and I edit or hide my feelings because I don’t want to bother him since he is so busy. And I needed his help with something he kept putting it off and not getting it done. I became a martyr and finally said something because I was feeling ignored and diminished because he was not meeting my need.
What I appreciate about our relationship is after a conflict we come together for a clearing conversation. I can talk about my frustration and accept the truth of my experience. He can talk about his experience and we create a new possibility of being together that works for both of us. Conversation cleared and we move on.
And I must admit in the time before the clearing conversation I am feeling bad that we had the conflict in the first place. During this moment of denial what was it I truly wanted? I wanted to be heard, my need met and appreciation for everything I had done for him. My love language is words of affirmation. And my fear is I will hurt someone’s feelings and they won’t like me anymore. This really stops me in life because I hesitate or self-edit in order avoid conflict. I’m not being my true authentic self fully expressed. My new spiritual practice is to check in with myself and ask, “Is there more for me to say here”? Can I say it in a way where I own my experience and I am heard and understood? Instead of suffering in silence feeling misunderstood and unloved.
Thank goodness my son is trained in this communication and after we clear the previous conversation there is no lingering bad feelings or doubt about his love for me. We are clear that the present is the only point of power in this situation.
How do you handle conflict? Do you have a clearing conversation after the conflict is over? Were you fully self-expressed today? Did you speak up for yourself? Or did you edit or hide your feelings?
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Blessings,
MaSanda
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