Life is happening so FAST!
A friend lost her 98-year-old mother yesterday. Her husband died when he was in his 50’s and at long last they are together again dancing in heaven together. Last week my best friend lost her brother who was 59 years old. He was talking on the phone and then he just fell over and died. Another life gone.
Is it me or is life flying by so quickly these days and people are departing at a rapid pace? Is there even time to go through the five stages of grief from Elizabeth Kubler Ross’ model from 1969: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance? According to Google this is an outdated model of grief.
For me, I grab onto whatever feeling is capturing my attention in the moment. I take a few deep breaths and sign, thinking that life just keeps moving on whether I’m ready or not. Which causes me to contemplate my own mortality. One day I will be the one that dies and people will send condolences on Facebook as my family plans to remove all of my earthly possessions and get on with their lives.
My 14-month-old granddaughter Nova reminds me every day what’s important – BE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT! What’s important to her is opening and closing things, hugging the kitty, getting fed and sleeping 12 hours a night. I’m always three steps ahead of myself and forgetting to be in the present moment until Nova reminds me to stop what I’m doing and play with her.
Thank goodness for my spiritual practice especially meditation and being out in the garden. I could spend hours in the garden listening to the birds, running the dirt through my hands, planting and watching the beauty of all of my plants blooming and creating a beautiful landscape. It’s very satisfying to watch new growth every Spring. Things die and things grow, the process is the same every year.
It is an honor and pleasure for me to support people in learning meditation to be able to cope during grief and loss of a loved one. On June 8-12, 2021 at 9 am PST, I will be offering a FREE five-day challenge, “Meditate through Grief – Teaching young widowed moms to use nap time to heal.” It will be an opportunity create a safe place and Be Present with the feelings of grief and loss. If you know anyone who could use this kind of support please have them go to www.Heartvisions.com.
And please STOP and smell the roses!
